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Post subject: What's your first reaction to a problem?
 Posted: Nov 06, 2002 - 04:54 PM
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I have waaay too much time on my
hands today, so I was wondering how
other people here react to a problem....
serious or not so serious.
I'm guessing most people react emotionally
at first, unless you're Spock-like, so do
you have a feeling or a thought or both?
I instinctively get defensive and say to
myself, "You can't hurt me!"....
(I'm not sure who "You" is..  )
How do you react?
~Peg |
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Posted: Nov 06, 2002 - 05:05 PM
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Talk to everyone I can about it, thus, quite frequently, making the problem worse!
Oh yes, and having an extra glass of Chardonnay!
love sue |
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Posted: Nov 06, 2002 - 05:10 PM
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Hi Peg, Sue,
usually my first reaction is to sigh.......
Then if it is really upsetting I might feel crestfallen, etc....
Well tomorrow is another day....
Cheers,
Claudia. |
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Post subject: Got a problem?
Posted: Nov 06, 2002 - 05:15 PM
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Fix it, 
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Posted: Nov 06, 2002 - 05:27 PM
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Location: "It isn't that they can't see the solution. It is that they can't see the problem."~ G.K.C
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Think Logic...
Hi Peg, this question I consider vague because every problem has variables.
Take Care,
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Posted: Nov 06, 2002 - 05:51 PM
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Ok, maybe it is too vague, but
Claudia got it.
I was really curious about first
reaction to a problem, serious or not too
serious.
Claudia sighs, I feel defensive....
surely, there must be a thought or feeling,
before you take any action.
Here's another example;
My eldest daughter has, what I call,
"catastropic thinking" with even mild problems....
first thought? "The sky is falling!"
After that first reaction, if she's "handled"
carefully or has some time to think rationally,
she'll try to solve the problem.
And Doc, I mean first reaction, before
you have time to analyze the problem....
how 'bout this....what's your gut reaction
when first faced with any problem.
Interesting reaction to the question tho'
Either it's too early in the morning for
introspection, the question is too vague,
or everyone who answered, except Claudia,
is repressed! 
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Posted: Nov 06, 2002 - 06:04 PM
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| outrage is my first reaction. then why, and then normally now what? |
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Posted: Nov 06, 2002 - 06:20 PM
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| peg wrote: | Either it's too early in the morning for
introspection, the question is too vague,
or everyone who answered, except Claudia,
is repressed!
~Peg |
It's10:00am, I am never quite sure what women want and as for repressed, now I am depressed... 
Augie
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Posted: Nov 06, 2002 - 06:27 PM
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| "HOLY **** BATMAN!!!!!" |
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Posted: Nov 06, 2002 - 06:30 PM
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In all seriousness, though...
Usually, when a problem arises, I immediately react emotionally, asking myself what the consequences are, etc. After about a minute of self-pity, I start to get the wheels a'turnin' on what the logical, methodical solution is.
It all depends on the problem, really. There are times when, if a problem arises with my writing, that I become defensive and critical of their own style of critiquing my work. Other problems, such as the recent family ones, I've tried my best to deal with the tasks at hand first, then fall apart later. |
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"Maybe we weren't meant for Paradise. Maybe we were meant to fight our way through, struggle, claw our way up, scratch for every inch of the way. Maybe we can't stroll to the music of the lute, we must march to the sound of drums."
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Posted: Nov 06, 2002 - 06:30 PM
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| Augie wrote: | | peg wrote: | Either it's too early in the morning for
introspection, the question is too vague,
or everyone who answered, except Claudia,
is repressed!
~Peg |
It's10:00am, I am never quite sure what women want and as for repressed, now I am depressed...
Augie
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Hi Augie,
No smilie with your "depressed" comment...
how are you doing?
~Peg |
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Posted: Nov 06, 2002 - 06:34 PM
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Hi Peg:
Well the mind races with animalizing tactics such as, body language, what is the hidden message, finding a positive out of a negative situation (if it's negative) and most import try, try, try real hard in Listening First BEFORE your thought pattern kicks into high gear: D
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Posted: Nov 06, 2002 - 06:35 PM
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| rag451 wrote: | | "HOLY **** BATMAN!!!!!" |
love it !
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Posted: Nov 06, 2002 - 06:42 PM
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| peg wrote: | | rag451 wrote: | | "HOLY **** BATMAN!!!!!" |
love it !
~Peg |
Better than "Gee Willikers, Batman" eh?  |
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Posted: Nov 06, 2002 - 06:59 PM
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It depends on the problem.
Looking up in the rear view mirror while stopped at a red light to see a van that's much larger than what I'm driving that is going very fast and not seeing me elicited a thought of shocked resignation.
Two weeks of computer problems where I had to stay late to keep abreast of at the beginning of the school year was actually very enjoyable to me.
Punk teenagers screaming at each other in my grandmothers backyard at one in the morning while I was sleeping years ago elicited fury.
As Lazarus Long once said
"Get a shot off fast. This upsets him long enough to let you make your second shot perfect" |
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Posted: Nov 06, 2002 - 08:16 PM
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I understood Augies' response quite well....those were the first words out of my mouth.....
Whatever the problem...my FIRST reaction is to find the most pleasant way to fix the situation.....If things get nasty, THEN I get emotional....but I still try to fix it.....after 3 strikes and it still can't be done......I turn my back (an old Indian Tradition) and walk away from the situation, or person....then the situation/person becomes dead to me....and no ghost or spirit to communicate with....  |
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Posted: Nov 07, 2002 - 08:49 AM
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| Well, it depends on the problem . . . Normal mundane ones, I can sometimes "What if" myself to death on . . . Those requiring immediate action on my part will throw me into "Act first, panic later" mode. |
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Post subject: Re: Got a problem?
Posted: Nov 07, 2002 - 09:04 AM
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| Augie wrote: | Fix it,
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Sometimes, I have problems fixing problems. Being an engineer, this happens to me almost everday! |
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Posted: Nov 08, 2002 - 03:50 AM
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| I like to take the direct approach and smack the problem with a ball peen hammer... sometimes this can cause problems if the problem is also a person... |
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Posted: Nov 08, 2002 - 04:13 AM
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It truly depends on the severity of the problem.
I have to infer peg, you mean something larger than
a late charge at the library.
Beleive it or not, I think "communication" is the answer
to many of our problems we butt heads with every day.
Say my little girl has a fight with a boy at schoul(lol school).
I want to talk to the counselor and his parents.
I would automatically expect a " this is my child and he's right" response. So, show the parents some understanding, start a dialogue, this breaks down that wall and helps find common
ground. We both love our kids, and they are kids, lets work
to resolve this.
I think I learned this in dealing with the public in my job. You might
be amazed at the chips some of the usually normal folks bring in on their shoulder. When you get thru that, you can go where you want
to go.
I still reserve the right to decide when I've got a real jerk on my
hands and treat them so.
I keep a large trout handy and hit them right in the puss.
Was that more than you wanted to hear?
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Posted: Nov 08, 2002 - 04:15 AM
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| bongborg wrote: | | I like to take the direct approach and smack the problem with a ball peen hammer... sometimes this can cause problems if the problem is also a person... |
Saddam is a problem. Mr. Shatner said so himself.
Take your hammer and go deal with the problem.
Don't mind me, Bong. The brandy is going down nicely tonight.
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Posted: Nov 08, 2002 - 04:27 AM
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| Dave wrote: | | bongborg wrote: | | I like to take the direct approach and smack the problem with a ball peen hammer... sometimes this can cause problems if the problem is also a person... |
Saddam is a problem. Mr. Shatner said so himself.
Take your hammer and go deal with the problem.
Don't mind me, Bong. The brandy is going down nicely tonight.
~Dave |
If he turns up in my backyard I will happily do so, then have him stuffed and charge admission. |
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Posted: Nov 08, 2002 - 04:28 AM
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I also react differently depending on what the problem is. So I suppose my first reaction is to be mildly annoyed that my forward motion has been stopped, followed quickly by assessing the severity and possible solutions of the problem. I like finding the quickest, most efficient solutions to things, so usually I'm only annoyed for a few seconds, and then i get wrapped up in the fun of fixing things.
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Posted: Nov 08, 2002 - 04:28 AM
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| bongborg wrote: | | Dave wrote: | | bongborg wrote: | | I like to take the direct approach and smack the problem with a ball peen hammer... sometimes this can cause problems if the problem is also a person... |
Saddam is a problem. Mr. Shatner said so himself.
Take your hammer and go deal with the problem.
Don't mind me, Bong. The brandy is going down nicely tonight.
~Dave |
If he turns up in my backyard I will happily do so, then have him stuffed and charge admission. |
LOL. Yeah. Me too. 
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Posted: Nov 08, 2002 - 07:08 AM
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It truly depends on the severity of the problem.
I have to infer peg, you mean something larger than
a late charge at the library.
-kilgorn-
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You know, this is great, really.
I was looking for something a little different,
but these answers are more detailed and a better
interpretation of the question.
I've been on a feeling kick lately, so I was looking
for first, emotional reaction and what I'm seeing
is first "action" when faced with a problem.
I think with "feeling', it doesn't matter how big the problem is or isn't, the instinctive or habitual
feeling you have just increases or decreases.
With my example: "You can't hurt me."....if it's a minor problem, then I might say it like a taunt (to myself, of course)....if a major problem, it feels more like a declaration... and loud.
Claudia expressed a feeling in her "sigh", Honor in her"act now, panic later", i.e., repress any feeling in order to be able to act, and Diane gets annoyed for a few seconds and joains, outraged.
Then, they all take action;
just a few seconds pause...not an issue, imo.
Ten men responded....none say they react with a feeling first.
Seven women responded.....five react, at first, with a feeling.
Hmm....what do you think, Robert?
More than you wanted to read, kilgorn? Peg |
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