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Post subject: Saw This Train Wreck Coming.....
 Posted: Mar 14, 2010 - 09:34 PM
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from miles away.
I just got off the phone with my brother. After 10 months of marriage, they're calling it quits. Sometimes you just hate to be right, but this was one of those things that you just knew wasn't going to work. You ever been in that situation? But what can you say, right?
Pretty bad that the night of the wedding, at the after party, me and the boys were playing poker and laying odds on how long this was going to last. I was in for 8 months, missed it by 2.
I mean, the girl was a whining brat from Queens, and I knew my brother would never handle that. Also, he's caught her in quite a few lies since they were married, serious stuff. Mostly financial. I think she thought she'd caught herself a lawyer, and he would take care of all that.
He's no better. The bigger the party and the faster the women, he's there. Never the type to ever settle down, too much fun to be had. Carbon copy of my old man.
Still in all, he's family and it's sad. |
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Posted: Mar 15, 2010 - 12:20 AM
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Wow, that was a short marriage!!!!
But like you said in your thread it sounds like both had massive problems and both weren't ready to give in and really work on their problems....
God help t hem during the divorce....
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Posted: Mar 15, 2010 - 02:14 AM
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| They can just get an annulment...save money and time |
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Posted: Mar 15, 2010 - 02:24 AM
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| He actually did call Fr. Richard at his church. |
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Posted: Mar 15, 2010 - 03:45 AM
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I believe that honesty is one of the key elements of any relationship, especially marriage. If one cannot trust his/her partner in all things, it will make getting through live together nearly impossible.
BTW, is you brother older or younger than you Steve? You mentioned that he was like your father. I was just wondering if he was older and had been around your dad longer than you. |
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Posted: Mar 15, 2010 - 02:38 PM
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Hey Sue....this is my younger brother.
My older brother lives in a group home for the mentally handicapped, and has for all of his adult life. |
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Posted: Mar 15, 2010 - 03:05 PM
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| Well, Steve, you know what they say... you can choose your friends but not your family. You have to love them anyways... and if you can't love them then care for them.. and if you can't care for them, just leave them be. |
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Posted: Mar 15, 2010 - 05:17 PM
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| CaptJTK wrote: | Hey Sue....this is my younger brother.
My older brother lives in a group home for the mentally handicapped, and has for all of his adult life. |
I worked with the mentally handicapped for twenty years!
Sorry to hear about the failed marriage... Sad, really...
Dan
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Posted: Mar 15, 2010 - 07:55 PM
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| Dan, you must have the patience of a saint. |
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Posted: Mar 15, 2010 - 08:14 PM
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| I don't think the "me first" mentality works well in a marriage. |
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Posted: Mar 15, 2010 - 08:17 PM
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| Mirizor wrote: | | I don't think the "me first" mentality works well in a marriage. |
That is true...the "me first"mentality doesent work any where period actually...
DianaG |
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Posted: Mar 17, 2010 - 01:08 AM
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| Mirizor wrote: | | I don't think the "me first" mentality works well in a marriage. |
Yep.
My husband and I were talking about that last month. A lot of people love their spouses and such.
But when it comes to making decisions and such, they still think of themselves first, with their spouse as "that other person who might be affected by this, but it's not really a big deal."
They don't do it to be mean, but that ends up being the result. Due to the inherent selfishness.
My husband theorized that having to adjust your thinking to you and your spouse as a singular unit with whatever affects one affects the other and both are just as important. This is not something people are used to doing these days. (And is something they'd have to learn.)
Not only that but once you do manage to start thinking in terms of the "unit" then you have to accurately predict how things will affect both them and you. That takes practice.
It's interesting... |
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Posted: Mar 17, 2010 - 02:11 AM
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| Cuzsis wrote: | | Mirizor wrote: | | I don't think the "me first" mentality works well in a marriage. |
Yep.
My husband and I were talking about that last month. A lot of people love their spouses and such.
But when it comes to making decisions and such, they still think of themselves first, with their spouse as "that other person who might be affected by this, but it's not really a big deal."
They don't do it to be mean, but that ends up being the result. Due to the inherent selfishness.
My husband theorized that having to adjust your thinking to you and your spouse as a singular unit with whatever affects one affects the other and both are just as important. This is not something people are used to doing these days. (And is something they'd have to learn.)
Not only that but once you do manage to start thinking in terms of the "unit" then you have to accurately predict how things will affect both them and you. That takes practice.
It's interesting... |
Yes it does take practice. Will be married for 35 years this year on Flag Day. |
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