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Post subject: My Best Friend
 Posted: Aug 24, 2007 - 04:05 PM
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I woke up with the news this morning that my best friend is terminally ill. She's in the hospital and only has a few more days. She has cancer in her brain and liver. The brain tumor has ruptured and it's only a matter of time before she goes.
She is leaving behind her husband, a 7 year old daughter and 1 year old son. I've known her since 5th grade. I was told 2 hours ago and I'm still in shock. I'm not ready to deal with it myself. I'll be going to the hospital tonight but I'm not sure if I want to see her like this. She was such an amazing, fun person. I don't know. I'll have to see when I get there.
I know there's nothing that can be done, but if you can just say a prayer that the passes quickly and painlessly...I can't bear to see her in pain. |
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Posted: Aug 24, 2007 - 05:07 PM
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I will pray that your friend has a quick, painless and peaceful passing.
I will also pray for comfort for you and her family.
Cancer is such a horrible disease. I have lost too many family members to it.
I know it will be tough, but do try to visit with your friend. Depending on her state, she may not even know you are there, but you will probably regret it if you don't.
Be strong.
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Posted: Aug 24, 2007 - 05:17 PM
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Location: I destroy my enemy when I make him my friend.--Abraham Lincoln
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| I am praying for your friend and her family Tina. We are here for you. Stay in touch. |
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Posted: Aug 24, 2007 - 05:37 PM
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Oh Tina, how terrible for you and her family. Do try and stay strong for you and for them. I know how hard it is to lose a true friend and you have my warmest thoughts at this dreadful time,
love Sue |
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Posted: Aug 24, 2007 - 06:05 PM
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Location: Never you mind where I'm at! You don't need to be knowing! Snoops!
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 I'll pray. |
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Posted: Aug 24, 2007 - 06:12 PM
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My prayers to you and your friend.
For strenght....and a quick and peacefull passing .
I know how it is to loose someone,but like the others say, dont rob yourself of the last chance you wil ever have to say you love her and farewell..... |
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Posted: Aug 24, 2007 - 06:20 PM
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A Peaceful Transition for your Friend...and the warm touch of your hand and tears, for her to know that you loved her and she will be Ok to Walk ON....
It takes strength to face the mask of Death and I know you fear carrying that memory with you for the rest of your days, Tina, but even if she has started her walk and is in a coma...she can and WILL hear and FEEL you...
I send you Strength and Peace within your Heart
I'm Sorry for your Loss  |
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Posted: Aug 24, 2007 - 11:34 PM
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I'm so sorry Tina, I know how it feels, I know how much it hurts. Be there for your friend, may it bring strength to you and to her family.
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Posted: Aug 25, 2007 - 12:13 AM
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God be with you and your friend tonight.....May angels bring you peace Tina and gently carry your friend home quickly and I pray she won't suffer....
{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}
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Posted: Aug 25, 2007 - 12:29 AM
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| This is such a sad situation, specially happening to such a young family...May God grant this family strength and peace, and find his comfort through it all...and praying the same for you Tina. |
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Posted: Aug 25, 2007 - 09:19 AM
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Location: standing here shaking my head in disbelief....
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| Tina, I am so sorry. I will absolutely say a prayer for your friend, and her family and friends. |
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Posted: Aug 26, 2007 - 07:33 AM
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| I will certainly pray for her, Tina. It is best for you to go and talk to her before she leaves this existence. I did that when my aunt was dying (5 years ago, of cancer). It was the hardest thing I had to do, because that wasn't really the way I wanted to remember her. I think I've put that image pretty much out of my mind, and only remember her from before the cancer. It's going to be a tough thing to handle, but we'll be here for you if you need to talk...... |
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Posted: Aug 26, 2007 - 04:11 PM
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I've been over to the hospital every day since I found out. Yesterday she woke up while I was there. She was very disoriented and frustrated. The meds she's on make her so tired and loopy she can't concentrate that much and forgets things in minutes.
Her family went down to the cafeteria to have dinner and another friend Julie and I were watching her. (she's a nurse) Jen wanted so much to get out of bed so we said screw it. Julie unhooked her and we doubled up her gown, helped her out of bed and walked her over to the sitting area.
Her room is on ...ugh I forget the name. Starts with a P.. but it's where they put terminally ill patients because there's a living room/dining area/kitchen so the family can live there round the clock.
Anyway, we sat her on one of the couches for a bit and then was walking her up the hallway when her family came back. Jen wanted to go outside so we grabbed a wheel chair and took her out. They have a nice park area there and we took her to that so she could sit on the grass.
Earlier Jen had refused the meds that make her sleep so she could be more alert for a bit. She was still quite loopy but at least she could get out of bed and talk a little bit, though it was hard to understand her.
We wheeled her back up and back to the sitting area where she sat for a bit and then took her back to her room. She was a bit more lucid when Julie, her sister Shannon and I were helping her back to bed. She called for her mom and Jen was figuring out where she was in the hospital. (she had been there before when she was sick because the hospital was completely full and that was the only room they had left). She said she wanted to get serious for a minute and looked at me and asked if she was in Ebay. (she and I did ebay together so when she saw me she asked if she was there. It was clear though that what she was trying to ask if she was in (that P word I can't remember LOL). Of course we said she wasn't. She doesn't know she's dying and her family isn't telling her.
It was really hard. She'd go off in thought and start crying and it was just so hard to keep our emotions under control. I refuse to cry in front of her...or at all for that matter. There will be plenty of time for that later.
I spent 6 hours over there and I'm going back today (and the next day, and the next day..) At one point she asked where her teddy bear was. She doesn't have one so I'm getting her one today. And she didn't eat at all yesterday but said she was hungry for watermelon so I'm bringing some in for her. I'll make sure she has everything she wants. She was talking about fireworks too and dammit if she wants fireworks I'll bring those as well.
So this is going to be a big chunk of my day until the end. I think it's good for me to be there to get used to the fact that she's dying and I can be prepared for it. It's hard, but I know if I don't do everything I can I'll regret it. |
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Posted: Aug 26, 2007 - 05:25 PM
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| You SWEET Loving Person !!!!! |
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Posted: Aug 26, 2007 - 05:40 PM
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Location: I destroy my enemy when I make him my friend.--Abraham Lincoln
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You are a good friend Tina. I have a strange feeling that deep down your friend realizes that she is dying and is wanting to enjoy it to the very end.
Thank you for sharing what you are doing for Jen. We are all here for you. |
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Let's do it as a memorial to Joyce Mason
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