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 Posted: Aug 07, 2007 - 07:00 AM
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| teclaydon wrote: | | Jami wrote: |
"...People don't see me, they see I'm fat and automatically see me as worthless. Nothing I do will change that so why should I even try?..."
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Nonsense ...it's what you do that can change it.
'Why should I even try' is a cop-out that avoids taking responsibility for any effort that it would take to make a difference. A low self-esteem gives off as strong of a vibe as a high one, and if you've resigned yourself to accept less from life than what you know you're capable of attaining, you are your own worst enemy ...not the people around you who are simply picking up on the negative 'message' that you're sending out to them.
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Jami...Terry is right !
You know, I KNOW how you feel and think, I HAVE BEEN THERE AS WELL !
Most part of my life I have struggled with my weight and size.
Being short means usualy every ounce shows.
I went from 110 pounds to 210 within 3 years and didn't want to leave the house because I felt useless...ugly...ridiculed.
I thought people hated me because I didn't look like those slim and slender girls with beautyful long shiny blond hair.
Legt up to their armpits and able to look great in a garbage back !
So I started to go on a diet....excersize and hey presto, I lost the weight !
One stone....two....three....
One day I fitted a what we have over here size 34...i think that's a size 1 or 2 in the States.
And I felt great...untill I realized I lost a whole bunch of friends.
NO...not because I no longer made them look thin and beautiful since I was a FAT PIG, but because In my struggle to loose weight i had become a selfsentered egotistic anorexic with just one thing on her mind...how to lose more weight and how to evoid having to eat those few cherries a friend brought ...
I wont bother you with more details, but what I learned from all of this is that friends look at you with the same eyes you look at yourself !!!
SMILE even when you are down or sad...try to be an optimist even when you dont feel that way, people will see a friendly face and will react to that.
Now I'm no longer that thin anymore, I still LOVE to eat and it showes, but I look at myself in a differend way.
I am who I am...a short redhead with more curves than I should, but I enjoy life and refuze to see things in a negative way...
For everytime I smile....I get a smile back !
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Posted: Aug 07, 2007 - 07:27 AM
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Posts: 1410
Location: Most likely not where you are!
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| Pippa wrote: | | teclaydon wrote: | | Jami wrote: |
"...People don't see me, they see I'm fat and automatically see me as worthless. Nothing I do will change that so why should I even try?..."
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Nonsense ...it's what you do that can change it.
'Why should I even try' is a cop-out that avoids taking responsibility for any effort that it would take to make a difference. A low self-esteem gives off as strong of a vibe as a high one, and if you've resigned yourself to accept less from life than what you know you're capable of attaining, you are your own worst enemy ...not the people around you who are simply picking up on the negative 'message' that you're sending out to them.
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Jami...Terry is right !
You know, I KNOW how you feel and think, I HAVE BEEN THERE AS WELL !
Most part of my life I have struggled with my weight and size.
Being short means usualy every ounce shows.
I went from 110 pounds to 210 within 3 years and didn't want to leave the house because I felt useless...ugly...ridiculed.
I thought people hated me because I didn't look like those slim and slender girls with beautyful long shiny blond hair.
Legt up to their armpits and able to look great in a garbage back !
So I started to go on a diet....excersize and hey presto, I lost the weight !
One stone....two....three....
One day I fitted a what we have over here size 34...i think that's a size 1 or 2 in the States.
And I felt great...untill I realized I lost a whole bunch of friends.
NO...not because I no longer made them look thin and beautiful since I was a FAT PIG, but because In my struggle to loose weight i had become a selfsentered egotistic anorexic with just one thing on her mind...how to lose more weight and how to evoid having to eat those few cherries a friend brought ...
I wont bother you with more details, but what I learned from all of this is that friends look at you with the same eyes you look at yourself !!!
SMILE even when you are down or sad...try to be an optimist even when you dont feel that way, people will see a friendly face and will react to that.
Now I'm no longer that thin anymore, I still LOVE to eat and it showes, but I look at myself in a differend way.
I am who I am...a short redhead with more curves than I should, but I enjoy life and refuze to see things in a negative way...
For everytime I smile....I get a smile back !
And so will you ! |
EXACTLY!!!
I'm going to marry a woman who's not exactly ever going to be on the cover of vogue or cosmo but she is a beautiful woman nonetheless... Her beauty is one that is deeper than what's on the outside... she has a strength of character and vibrant spirit that I find absolutely gorgeous!
So never sell yourself short.
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Posted: Aug 07, 2007 - 03:24 PM
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Location: Never you mind where I'm at! You don't need to be knowing! Snoops!
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That's such a wonderful and beautiful story,Pippa. I loved it.  |
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Posted: Aug 07, 2007 - 04:04 PM
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Location: I destroy my enemy when I make him my friend.--Abraham Lincoln
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I used to get teased a lot when in school. Instead of fighting back, I internalized it. I have spent years working my way out through the scares and very thick wall that formed around my heart and soul. Trust me, if it had not been for my religious upbringing, I could very easily have become one of those kids with a gun who shot up a school. To this day, I refuse to go to any class reunions.
Sweet revenge though. Many of those kids who made my life Hell on earth are on their second and third marriages, have kids who are strung out of drugs, or are sitting in jail for some stupid crime. |
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Let's do it as a memorial to Joyce Mason
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Posted: Aug 07, 2007 - 04:11 PM
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Location: Never you mind where I'm at! You don't need to be knowing! Snoops!
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I know about that. I was the shy gawky homely girl in the corner. Still am  But if it weren't for my lovely parents I don't know what I would have done. The one who tormented me the most and made my life hell wound up killing a handicapped kid while he was drunk driving and eventually wound up killing himself in a car accident. He was drunk again. I pity him and at the same time I think what comes around goes around. He should have changed before it was too late. |
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Posted: Aug 12, 2007 - 06:43 PM
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"You're good enough.
You're smart enough.
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Posted: Aug 13, 2007 - 06:41 AM
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What was it Queen Latifa's mom said to her...? "You're a queen, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!" It totally shows! 
You walk in calm and assertive (Dog Whisperer) and you will get results. Doesn't matter what you look like. People recognize the energy and your "vibe" and will respond to it.
I've gone into high class clothing stores in my beat up shorts and aging t-shirt....
If I go in quietly and subdued, like I don't think I belong there. I'll get ignored and perhaps even get a few odd looks in my direction. Like they really are wondering if I'm there to shop or shoplift. 
If I walk in like I have as much right to be there as all the "rich" people then the shop keep will check with me to see if I need anything. I may not be rich, I may not be buying that $50 lingerie', but that doesn't mean I can't save up and come back for it later if I want to. |
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